The Benefits Of Introducing Sex Toys Into Your Sex Life

As humans, we are creatures of habit – this is often true of our relationships and sex lives as well. While you may love having sex with your partner, it’s normal to start feeling a little bored with the same old routine. Introducing sex toys to your sex life is a great way to reignite the passion and feel the excitement you did in the early days.

Introducing sex toys into your sex life has a variety of benefits – it will make sex more exciting, while helping you and your partner to learn more about your sexuality. Experimenting with new toys will spark that feeling of adventure and bring you and your partner closer together.

Read on to find out more about the benefits of bringing toys to the bedroom – even if you don’t feel like sex is becoming a chore, it’s a great way to spice things up.

Improving Communication

Most couples go through a slump with sex at some point or another. In the worst cases, it can lead to what is called a ‘dead bedroom’ where a couple loses interest in sex altogether. Dead bedrooms are not a death sentence, in spite of the name – they just take a little more work to revive, and sex toys can help.

Communication is key, as always in a relationship. Introducing toys to the bedroom requires a conversation between you and your partner to express openly and honestly how you feel about it, and what kind of toys you each will be comfortable with. Vibrators are a good place to start – you can talk to your partner about what kind of toys you might enjoy and how you could use them with or on each other.

There are plenty of toys that are designed with couples in mind. The We-Vibe Unite is a good example – it can enhance pleasure for both partners during penetrative sex, but you could also opt for a massage wand and take turns giving each other’s bodies attention.

Getting Adventurous

Sex is more about the journey than the destination, as much as we all enjoy a good orgasm. A new toy can bring excitement to your sex life as you and your partner discover how to use and enjoy it together.

Using sex toys, you and your partner can explore each others bodies in new ways and you might even learn a few things about yourself or your partner that surprises you! Sex toys can be exciting because using them will help encourage you to think outside the box and try new things together.

Some toys have an app function, so you can let your partner take control and make you squirm, even if they aren’t in the same room. This can also help maintain intimacy if you or your partner are traveling.

If you are feeling extra adventurous, you might want to try some BDSM with your partner. Bondage involves one party being restrained, and is a voluntary act where the restrainee puts their trust in their partner, referred to as the dominant, who can use various implements like paddles and ticklers to stimulate the submissive party. Vibrators also work great here.

The important thing with toys is that they can be used not just to enhance sex, but to reinforce or improve communication and intimacy as well. Every step of the way, you will be communicating openly and honestly about the things you like and dislike, which brings us to the next point.

Breaking Down Barriers

Even in the strongest relationships, we sometimes struggle to express ourselves openly and honestly. Men can be particularly sensitive when it comes to their sexual performance; they may feel discouraged if they cannot get their partner to orgasm, and many suffer from conditions like erectile dysfunction as they get older which also increases their anxiety around sex.

Many women struggle to reach orgasm through penetrative sex. Even if men are presented with this fact, they may still feel inadequate if they cannot get their partner to climax on their own. Introducing toys as a foreplay and sex enhancer can be empowering; the novelty of a new experience can help take the pressure off your partner if they are feeling discouraged, especially if it results in fireworks.

Erectile dysfunction is another reason men might feel insecure about sex. Introducing a sex toy like a cock ring can help men maintain erections for longer, and make them more confident. There are also vibrating cock rings for male partners who might not be comfortable wielding a more traditional vibrator – these feel great for both parties.


Sex toys aren’t just for solo play, they can be used to make your sex life even better and strengthen your relationship along the way. Everything starts and ends with communication, and a couple who can communicate well in the bedroom is likely to have better communication outside of it, as well.